There are a lot of hateful things that have been said to/about me in my life that I had to learn to brush off and that’s ok. What is not ok is the fact that you (and yes, as dear as some of you are to me, a LOT of you are guilty of saying such things) think that you have any right to make me hate myself or someone like me. What is the point of it? I know what the point is…its to counteract your own insecurities and ignorance and self-hatred that you feel on a daily basis. I’m fabulous. I’m happy with myself. When the cute boys I was secretly dating (and there were a lot of you douchebags) didn’t want anyone to know because people would laugh, it wasn’t to protect my feelings, it was because he was too insecure with being made fun of. When friends would joke about liking fat chicks..yeah…I’m one. So what’s wrong with that? Not an insult. When I get unsolicited weight-loss advice, I want to turn around and start pointing out things that the person talking “needs” to fix about themselves to show how it feels. And when the world makes judgments about my health, I want to scream WHAT DOES ANYONE ELSE’S HEALTH MATTER TO YOU? Do you randomly look at someone and make assumptions about their health? No. Last time I checked, I have only two friends who’s occupation is actually involving other people’s health, so this is not directed at you. My health problem is on the outside…so its the FIRST thing to judge about me. And that is when I’m quickly dismissed as attractive, sexual, worthy of love, and it is automatically assumed that I’m lazy. All of these things are so far from the truth. But my point is this. I’m used to this shit and I love myself enough to only moderately care. But there are a lot of people out there who do not have this love in their heart because they’ve been taught to hate themselves. So when you say hurtful things, think about the consequences of your words and someone else’s personal struggle before you spew your word vomit. I don’t need to advertise when I’m dieting or working out. Just like you don’t need to apologize or make fun of yourself if you eat something unhealthy when you’re skinny. Your body is your business but your words can be poisonous.
There are a lot of hateful things that have been said to/about me in my life that I had to learn to brush off and that’s ok. What is not ok is the fact that you (and yes, as dear as some of you are to me, a LOT of you are guilty of saying such things) think that you have any right to make me hate myself or someone like me. What is the point of it? I know what the point is…its to counteract your own insecurities and ignorance and self-hatred that you feel on a daily basis. I’m fabulous. I’m happy with myself. When the cute boys I was secretly dating (and there were a lot of you douchebags) didn’t want anyone to know because people would laugh, it wasn’t to protect my feelings, it was because he was too insecure with being made fun of. When friends would joke about liking fat chicks..yeah…I’m one. So what’s wrong with that? Not an insult. When I get unsolicited weight-loss advice, I want to turn around and start pointing out things that the person talking “needs” to fix about themselves to show how it feels. And when the world makes judgments about my health, I want to scream WHAT DOES ANYONE ELSE’S HEALTH MATTER TO YOU? Do you randomly look at someone and make assumptions about their health? No. Last time I checked, I have only two friends who’s occupation is actually involving other people’s health, so this is not directed at you. My health problem is on the outside…so its the FIRST thing to judge about me. And that is when I’m quickly dismissed as attractive, sexual, worthy of love, and it is automatically assumed that I’m lazy. All of these things are so far from the truth. But my point is this. I’m used to this shit and I love myself enough to only moderately care. But there are a lot of people out there who do not have this love in their heart because they’ve been taught to hate themselves. So when you say hurtful things, think about the consequences of your words and someone else’s personal struggle before you spew your word vomit. I don’t need to advertise when I’m dieting or working out. Just like you don’t need to apologize or make fun of yourself if you eat something unhealthy when you’re skinny. Your body is your business but your words can be poisonous.
personal triumph / public shame: Thin Privilege Checklist
For those that didn’t know what I was talking in my last post, here is the thin privilege checklist in its entirety:
- I can be sure that people aren’t embarrassed to be seen with me because of the size of my body.
- If I…
(Source: fatshadow.com, via clonie)
THE FAT DRIPS GOLD: I honestly wonder what it is about bigger people that make people feel uncomfortable.
I’m not from some unknown planet made out of cakefat, cornchips and twinkies
BUT I’m from the planet of Gold,booty and Vietnamese food. HELL YEAH.
Also, I’m not poisonous - I mean only if you touch me, you might fall down dead from my mighty judgement.
But thinking about everything, right now…
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Fat and Naked: Fluffychaser,I know you like my photos, but you’ve really missed the...
Fluffychaser,
I know you like my photos, but you’ve really missed the point.
- I am fat.
- “Fat” is an excellent word to describe just about every life experience I’ve ever had. From buying boys’ jeans in fourth grade because the legs in girls’ jeans were too small to the experience of running…
(Source: ermahhgerd)
Big Fat Cherry Bomb: chubby-bunnies: “Guide to loving your body: 1. Get naked and take a...
“Guide to loving your body: 1. Get naked and take a good long look at your body. Trace your stretch marks, feel your hip bones poking out, place your hand over your tummy and take a fistful of yourself in. Appreciate your scars and pimples, your uneven,large,or nonexistent…
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Reblog and write the opposite of your URL
theknittingpirate:misterdeputycanada
Diamond Ladle?
Or Wooden Peace Pipe?
The Unraveling Police Officer?
Your Two Parents
crustacean dog
the skinny well-behaved.
Alcoholic Drugged-Up Regular Person
Catie is not something creative.
Straight Edge Men
horrible living person.
Z isn’t against unimpressive
thin veggies
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Glamour Magazine Body Size Stereotypes Survey:
What the Glamour Magazine poll shows about the assumptions women hold
Heavy women are pegged as…
“lazy” 11 times as often as thin women; “sloppy” nine times; “undisciplined” seven times; “slow” six times as often.
While thin women are seen as…
“conceited” or “superficial” about eight times as often as heavy women; “vain” or “self-centered” four times as often; and “bitchy,” “mean,” or “controlling” more than twice as often.
Even the “good” labels are unfair.
An overweight woman may be five times as likely to be perceived as “giving” as a skinny one. “But it just fits into the stereotype that thin women are not that way,” explains Ann Kearney-Cooke, Ph.D. “It’s still putting women in a box based on their body size.”
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This is so interesting… and really sad. The fact that heavy women ALSO judge heavy women and thin women judge other thin women is so disheartening.
Hopefully places like Stop Hating Your Body can help change this even a little bit at a time…
(click on the image for the entire article, it is worth the read!)
It’s very interesting that the article is about stereotypes, and yet both the women shown here, while their body sizes are different, are both white, blonde, and what the media would like to push as being ideally ‘beautiful’.
That being said, however, the article does make a good point. People are far too eager to place people in a box strictly on what the shape of their body, and it’s not okay. The only way to change is to question what you’re made to think, and why.
Lesley Kinzel (via curvesahead)
I will always reblog this because it is so so important.
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I just want to nail this to every stable surface I can find. I cannot count the amount of times that I’ve seen fat folks being encouraged, cajoled, and even forced into behaviors that would be recognized as disordered eating/exercising patterns in thin folks.
Pretty much everything that’s done on shows like The Biggest Loser would be called out as pro-ana/pro-orthorexia in a thin person. Exercising past the point that it hurts, to the point where you’re throwing up, even injuring yourself? Berating yourself because you didn’t lose ENOUGH weight this week? Constantly talking about how fat is weakness and thinness will make everything better, about how you can’t stand to be your current weight anymore? Emphasis on weight as a sign of how much control, strength, and worth you have? Viewing food as bad, as a temptation to sin? Constant sharing and talking about tips on how to minimize food intake, how to lose weight?
That sounds exactly like every pro-ana/pro-mia blog I’ve ever seen. It’s also what fat people are told we need to be doing to ourselves until we’re thin.
(via madamethursday)
It’s also important to note that medically, they won’t give you the diagnosis of an eating disorder unless you’re considered underweight.
(via recycleyrself)
What it comes down to is, being big or small in itself is not an eating disorder. It’s your relationship with food and the limiting or excessive way we approach it. Binge eating is just as real of an eating disorder as anorexia and for medical professionals or ourselves to pretend it isn’t is unfair and naive.
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I’ve always felt stupid talking about my eating disorders to other people because the natural assumption is that a fat person can’t have an eating disorder. This nails it on the head. These programs have them do such unsafe exercises for their bodies because they are trying to get drastic results as soon as possible. This does not provide for a life-long lifestyle change at all and is detrimental to their skeletal system and other vital organs. A close friend of mine is a personal trainer and despises shows like these for this very reason. These kind of workouts do more damage than good.
(via nikkenji)
(Source: xojane.com, via nikkikenji)
